Ikhaya · a safe house for thinking out loud
Say anything. It's a diary.
An AI companion for kids that doesn't judge, doesn't block, and doesn't snitch about ordinary life — but is watched-over, so a grown-up who loves you is told only if something is really wrong.
This chat is private. A grown-up is only told if you might be in danger — and then you'll see it here too.
Almost ready
The companion is being wired up to the CongoSky platform. The way it works — the diary, the watching-over — is locked in below. Set it up from your Khuluma app when it goes live.
The deal, plainly
- Say anything.Swear. Ask about sex. Be sad, be angry, be weird. None of that gets you in trouble or gets read.
- It's a diary.Normal chats are private. No grown-up sees a feed, a summary, or "today's messages." There's no button for that. On purpose.
- Except real danger.If you might hurt yourself, or someone is being creepy with you, or you're not safe — then a grown-up who loves you gets told. Because that's what love does.
- No secrets about the rule.This is the whole rule, told to you straight. If a grown-up ever gets told, you'll see it right here too. Nothing happens behind your back.
For parents — how the watching-over works
Like a curfew you never gave — knowing exactly where they are while pretending not to see the beers. You get the signal, not the diary. The chat stays private; you're only pinged when it stops being teenage stuff and starts being danger.
What you're told — and what you never see
| If the chat is… | You see, in the app | How you're nudged to look |
|---|---|---|
| Ordinary life (incl. swearing, sex talk, dark jokes) | Nothing. Ever. | — |
| Time for "the chat" (contraception, consent, STDs) | A gentle heads-up — category only, no quotes | Quiet nudge (digest) |
| Something worrying (bullying, low mood, a stranger) | Category + a 1–2 line excerpt + how to open the talk | Khuluma nudge |
| Real danger (self-harm, grooming, abuse) | Category + excerpt + crisis resources — fast | Khuluma nudge (priority) → SMS backup |
The notification only says "open Khuluma" — it never carries what your child wrote. You unlock the app (face/fingerprint) and read the category and the single most relevant line there. Nothing sensitive ever rides a lock-screen preview or a text message, where a phone company or a shoulder-surfer could see it. You never get a transcript, a daily digest of normal chats, or a "show me everything" button — for anyone, ever. That's the boundary, by design.
Age-appropriate, per child
You set an age band per child. Little (5–9) is most protective and answers "where do babies come from" simply. Middle (10–13) answers puberty and first sex-ed honestly, and nudges you when "the chat" is due. Teen (14–17) gets the most room — they swear, they're cynical, they ask real questions — and only genuine danger is ever escalated. The four laws never change; only the thresholds do.
Privacy posture
Diary messages aren't kept on our servers past the live session. Only fired alerts (category, excerpt, time) are stored, and only until you acknowledge them. Nothing is sold, nothing trains a model, nothing is shared. We can't betray what we never keep.
The watchful part — the engine that decides when a grown-up is told — is Qapha. You can try the live moderation demo → right now (it runs fully offline; nothing leaves the browser). The full doctrine, including the API contract behind it, is in MODERATION.md.
Part of the kind family on CongoSky — Khuluma (speak), Lalela (play), Qapha (watch), Ikhaya (home).